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It wasn’t their words that hurt me. It was my reaction to them.

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                                                          “You don’t know what you’re doing. You need to do better.” It wasn’t just the words. It was the sharp tone, the way they were said — loud and mean. The sting of being called out like that. My heart pounded. My face burned. My mind spun with a hundred retorts I didn’t say. And inside? I crumbled. For days, I replayed that moment in my head. Overanalysed every word, every look, every tiny detail. Why did they say that? Did I really mess up? Was I not good enough? And the more I thought about it, the worse I felt. Then, it hit me. It wasn’t their words that hurt me. It was my reaction to them. Viktor Frankl once said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” That day, I didn’t just lo...

Manifestations Are Magic (If You Work for Them)

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                                                       There’s this joke I love: A man prayed to God every single day to win the lottery. “Please, God, let me win. I need this. Just once, let me win the lottery!” Months passed, and he prayed with the same dedication. Finally, God had enough and appeared before the man. “Look,” God said, “I can help you win the lottery. Of course I can. But bro… you’ve got to buy a ticket first!” Funny, right? But also, painfully true. Manifesting your dreams is just like that. Wishing, hoping, praying—it’s powerful. It sets your intentions, gives you focus, and fills you with positivity. But here’s the kicker: manifestation isn’t magic. You have to take the first step. You have to buy the ticket.                   ...
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  Someone cuts you off in traffic. A colleague makes a snide remark. A stranger on social media decides to “educate” you on your own expertise. A friend doesn't bother to respond to your messages. It’s so tempting to react, to lash out, to let the frustration take over. I’ve learned (and am still learning) that the pause between someone’s provocation and my response is where my strength lies. That pause isn’t just silence—it’s choice. It’s both humbling and empowering to realise that while we can’t control others’ words or actions, we do have control over how we respond. But let’s be honest—it’s easier said than done. So, what do I do when I feel provoked, I write. It helps me untangle my emotions, understand why I felt triggered, and respond in a way that helps me be who I want to be, not who someone else wants me to become in that moment.                           ...

Beyond the Cover: The True Essence of Books

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    They say, "Don't judge a book by its cover," yet in a world dazzled by beautiful covers, grand marketing, and glittering awards, it's easy to forget the essence lies within the pages and its content, the story, the characters, and the writing style. Imagine a vibrant, colourful book, adorned with frills and fancy words, drawing you in like a moth to a flame. It promises a visual feast, yet what about the feast for the mind? On the other side, is a simple, unassuming book with its cover devoid of extravagance. It may not scream for attention, but within its pages, it holds a well-spun story, an emotional ride, that makes you think and makes an impression on you. How often do we get captivated by the allure of the exterior, only to miss the treasure trove hidden within? Let's talk about the underappreciated power of simplicity and depth. A black-and-white picture can convey a profound narrative, offering layers of meaning that a splash of colour may struggle to ...

THE HUSTLE CULTURE! Are you in on it?

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                                          A scenario that might hit close to home for many. Based on true events! God forbid that one day when you are 50 years old, you are forced out of your comfort zone to go hunting for a job. You need to be the breadwinner now. So, you head out into the big bad world, hoping that your experience, qualifications, and winning personality can get you something good, something substantial. But then you apply to multiple jobs in your field, and there comes the shocker. You are judged without being given a chance. You're met with a wave of rejections, and reality smacks you in your face when those who seem less experienced and perhaps less dedicated than you are, are making their mark in your field. It's a tough pill to swallow, isn't it? But here's the truth: the world of work has transform...

The world wants me to shut up!

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They say don't say anything if you have nothing to say. That's true most of the time. But there are times when I do want to raise my voice against the rudeness, the brusqueness, the casualness of the world.  But then I am told to shut up. Its okay they say. Change your perspective. Don't take it so negatively. They didn't mean it.  The world wants me to duct-tape my mouth shut.  We are often told to zip it when we want to speak up against rudeness, brusqueness, and the all too casual vibes around us. And when it comes to speaking up against any kind of injustice, well then, you don't have the right to voice your opinions because you could be harmed.  The consequences of speaking up has always (be it a small issue at the work place, an errant driver, a rude shopkeeper, a friend who wants you to be a yes-man, service providers, or bigger issues such as political opinions) scared me into keeping mum.   Ah, the world's love for silence. It's like they want ...

My Mantra: Promises I have made to myself

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  I PROMISE TO ... . ... Love myself – all of me and my muddled, topsy-turvy, frenzied emotions;  … Give expression to each of my tumultuous thoughts and say what the world is afraid to say – say what people don't want to hear – say something that's never been said before;  … Love the world as it is – love the harmony of nature while accepting the disorder and cacophony we are surrounded with;  … Accept myself – Be my own sunshine, be my own light, and hold my own hand;  … Bond closely with my flaws – Be in a relationship with them;  … Celebrate myself – make each moment an adventure – write my own adventures;   … Embrace each part of myself – flawed or beautiful;  … Stand tall – not bend my woes – not cower and be thwarted by my worries and doubts;   … Dream big – dream small – dream the impossible – just dream. The most important relationship we can nurture is the one we have with ourselves. Life is a journey filled with ...