It's 2020: Have things really changed for women?
Women's Day is almost here! Women’s rights and
gender equality are taking centre stage in 2020. Are they?
The world is changing for women or has changed or
has been changing since time immemorial or since Eve ate that bloody apple,
cocking a snook at Adam and maybe even God...who knows?
So, of course change is the only constant and the
only thing you can look forward to. And it was time, I felt, to finally address
the topic of how women's lives have changed over centuries. I haven't wanted to
before because sadly, I couldn't decide what my stance was on this very
controversial topic of women rights et al.
Now, they say and I agree you can never imagine
what someone else is going through until and unless you have gone through it
yourself. So, the issue of women aggressively fighting for their rights,
issues, and in some cases lives was something I didn't completely understand
because I was of the opinion that most of them were doing it wrong. Asking for
reservations, special treatment, demeaning the other gender was and is
according to me deeming yourself weak instead of empowering yourself and
obtaining equal opportunity on your own merit.
As a woman, I really can't say I have had to
struggle too much. I had a happy childhood, lived the life I wanted to without
too many restrictions except those that were normal parental ones, married a
man who has always pushed me to better myself and fulfill my ambitions and met
men who were nice people who didn't challenge my identity just because I was a
woman. As a human, on the other hand, the struggle has been mind boggling, a
pain in the ass and sometimes so overwhelming that I would have happily given
up on life. But never have I ever felt the need to blame the setbacks or the
ups and downs of my life on my gender.
But then again, like I said earlier 'change is
the only constant in life.' The mind numbing, agony of being a woman who is
sidelined, not respected, not heard, told not to speak or react, not follow
their passions, in a man's world hit me hard recently when during an important
meeting and moment, all the men in the meeting decided to ignore my inputs, not
let me speak and in the end decided on the outcome (though positive and bearing
a huge impact on me) without once bothering even to maintain eye contact with
me. I sat there head bowed, having given up on trying to say something, a mute
spectator to the goings on of the very important stuff the men thought only
they were competent enough to discuss.
I was hurt, deeply embarrassed and for the first
time questioned my abilities and competence as a human. It struck me then that
it was not my competence as a human that the men had ignored but it was my
abilities linked to my identity as a woman that made them feel I was not
important enough to be heard. There was a barrier that I had never noticed
before, that shook me up. The very same barrier that is so natural for men and
some women had never obstructed my path ever before, brought up feelings of
disappointment and frustration I now believe I had suppressed all my life.
Women have over centuries broken down this so-called
barrier and thwarted society's attempt to 'keep them in their place', many we
know about and celebrate and many we know nothing about. Take the imaginary TV
character of Mrs Maisel from The Marvelous Mrs Maisel, who stood up to anyone
who tried to get in her way of fulfilling her ambition of becoming a career
comic in the 1960s, to the character played by actor Tapsee Pannu in the film
called 'Thappad', who decides to divorce her husband once she realises the
foundation of the marriage was shaky; with no respect and equality, she decides
she didn't want to be a part of it anymore, to real life heroes like Kiran
Bedi, who became the first police officer in the 1970s, to freedom fighters,
women politicians, social workers, educators, CEOs and so many others who defy
all odds to do what they want to do in the name of passion, ambition and need.
As I breezed through 3 seasons of The Marvelous
Mrs Maisel set in 1960s America and the movie Thappad set in 2020, I realised
unfortunately that the world hasn't really changed. Not as much as it should
have, for all strata of women. Whether you are a woman who is ambitious or not,
whether you are a career woman or a homemaker, whether you are a maid or a CEO,
gender specific bias and expectations haven't changed much over time.
If you are a woman who dares to dream of stepping
into a domain considered to be only men's, you better be prepared. Not because
you are not good at your job but because well you are a woman. Simply, because
the achievement of full gender equality for women the world over has still not been
realised. A gender pay gap persists across the globe and women are still not
present in equal numbers in business or politics. Figures show that globally,
women’s education, health and violence towards women is still worse than that
of men.
According to a 2017 report by the World Economic
Forum, it could still take another 100 years before the global equality gap
between men and women disappears entirely.
So, while we celebrate yet another Women's Day,
celebrating womanhood, it is time to shake up the world, shake up the
well-established mindsets of people - men and women, shake up our system, shake
up our parenting style and realise that in the end it is all about respect and
empathy.
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